Why are Men so Selfish?

 Why are Men so Selfish?

Earlier today, I was discussing with my wife the issue of "why are guys so selfish." It arose as a result of the writer's block I'd been experiencing for several days. We had a wonderful hour-long discussion about this issue, and I can honestly say that putting my ego aside for an hour was eye-opening. I just had to; some of what she was saying was difficult to hear, but I believe it was important. What can you be if you can't be openly honest in a marriage, right?

As a guy, I appear to be selfish in that I prioritize my wants over those of our family. Isn't it cruel of me to say that? I presume you're picturing me going out with my man pals, partying, and leaving Natalie, barefoot and pregnant, at home, right? It doesn't necessarily imply that I, or any other man for that matter, are narcissists. But it's lot more complicated than that, and I believe she has a legitimate argument.

Being a selfish man

She was telling me about how difficult it was to get me off the internet last week so that my son could have his dinner early, which would set in motion an early bath and bed. This was a no-brainer for her. I should have come down to assist her, but she had to wait for me. To me, I needed to do my responsibilities before coming down, and they'd have to wait - I'd make up the time later, it'd be OK (which I didn't).

What she stated was intriguing since she was considering everyone there, including Alex, her, and myself. Alex would have a better night's sleep if he went to bed earlier, and we'd have more time to sit and relax with the TV before bedtime. But I could only see what was there in front of me at that very instant. Instead of finishing it afterwards, I could only see the work that needed to be done. I wanted to do it right then and there, rather than putting it off till later. And I thought to myself, "Wow, I was kind of thinking about myself there." So, my query, "Why are men so selfish?" was slowly being addressed.


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