10 Reasons Why People Don’t Like You

Over the course of our careers, we've all encountered successful individuals that we didn't like and/or who were just horrible. Those people can sometimes achieve despite their unappealing personalities, either because they are extremely talented or extremely fortunate. 

                                    However, for the vast majority of us, our ability to advance in our careers is primarily reliant on our ability to be likeable. People favor individuals they like and grant them employment and promotions. They often refer friends for jobs and talk favorably of those they admire.

It is necessary to be likeable, and it is beneficial to be liked. Some of us are better than others at it.

It's possible that you're right about others not like you. And if you're asking why, there's probably a simple answer that you can alter. People who display the behaviors outlined below on a regular basis then complain (sometimes for years) that they can't get work. It's sad, but people can only alter their minds when they choose to.

Here are some reasons why people dislike you and what you can do about it.

• You don’t listen

You make listening expressions and act as though you're listening at times. People, on the other hand, can always tell if you haven't heard a word they've spoken. People don't like to speak with someone who doesn't pay attention. Listen. It's simple.

• You think you know everything

You know those folks who, regardless of what you say, always seem to know more? Perhaps you are one of them. You won't be able to take direction, learn, progress, or even have a meaningful discussion as a result of this. It makes you irritable. Don't tell someone they're incorrect the next time you feel compelled to do so. Allow them to be right, even if they are incorrect. Check to see whether the world is about to end.

• You’re difficult.

When it's time for lunch, you always dislike the restaurant or can't find anything you like on the menu. You naturally push back on everything, turning tiny chores into enormous ones and sucking the breath out of the room. This is a person that no one wants on their squad. Ask yourself if you really need to quarrel or push back on something the next time you're ready to do so. Maybe it's best if you simply let things go.

• You complain

It's either too hot or too chilly all of the time. You're never happy because there's too much noise. Nobody enjoys being in the presence of persistent bad energy. Just ask my spouse! (Yes, I am a complainer to the extreme.) OK, I'm working on it.) Don't whine the next time you feel like it. Take a look at how it goes for you.

• You’re superior

At least, that's what you believe. There are persons who sneer and condescend to others, calling their beliefs "dumb" to their faces, behind their backs, or openly, in ambiguous social media posts, and who believe they are better and brighter than others. If you believe you are smarter than the rest of the world, I can assure you that you are not. Stop sneering, laughing at others, and being condescending.

• You’re angry

Are you usually irritated by something? Do you get into arguments with people, fight with them, take things personally, and scream at the Starbucks barista when they mess up your order? Do you mope around? Is everyone a moron, and is life completely unjust? Instead of being enraged, take a deep breath and ask yourself why you're so upset. It's nothing 99 percent of the time.

• You’re always telling people what to do

There are many people out there who enjoy giving unsolicited advise on everything and who can't manage to hold a conversation without telling the other person what they should do. Stop if you're doing it. This is despised by the public. Stop and think about why you feel compelled to offer someone advise they didn't ask for the next time you're ready to give them counsel they didn't ask for. Then say something different.

• You’re thoughtless and self-absorbed.

There are some who pick up after themselves, hold doors open for others, converse on the phone softly, and are generally considerate. Then there are some that make messes, close doors in your face, make a lot of noise, and are generally inept. You're undoubtedly aggravating everyone if you don't pay attention to what's going on around you. Clean up your messes, glance behind you, and speak quietly.

• You talk smack about other people.

Don't say anything at all if you can't say anything good. People that are worth knowing do not gossip about others behind their backs. They don't spread rumors or repeat gossip, and they certainly don't appreciate hearing it. Cut it out if you speak hurtful things behind people's backs. It's simple.

• You don’t know how to read social cues.

Being liked demands self-knowledge and awareness of others' emotions. You can change things if you learn to read people's reactions to you and recognize when they are offended or upset by anything you've said or done. Pay attention to other people's facial expressions and body language, as well as social clues. Learning to read people takes time, but once you do, it's an useful talent to have.

We've all done some of these things at one point or another. I'm sure I do. And they aren't simple to overcome in a single day. Changing them, on the other hand, will help us grow our jobs — and improve our lives.